Earlier this week, Hillary Clinton’s top aide Huma Abedin announced she was leaving her husband, former U.S. Congressman, Anthony Weiner.
Weiner, no stranger to sexual scandals, was recently caught sexting again, his third offense. In the latest debacle, The NY Post broke the story that Weiner sent a woman he’d “met” online an image of himself wearing only his underwear and with his four-year-old son cuddled beside him in bed.
It was strange, even for Weiner, who in 2011 when his wife of less than a year was pregnant, accidentally uploaded an image of his package to his official Twitter account while he was trying to direct message a woman who was not his wife. That scandal cost him his job in Congress. Two years later, in the midst of a seemingly successful run for New York mayor, Wiener was caught having sexual conversations online with a new woman who was also not his wife, and it cost him that job too. His public sexual fumbles were the subject of the documentary, Weiner, released earlier this year.
On Monday, the morning after The NY Post’s story hit sites, Abedin, Weiner’s wife of six years, announced she was divorcing him.
“After long and painful consideration and work on my marriage, I have made the decision to separate from my husband,” Abedin said in a statement. “Anthony and I remain devoted to doing what is best for our son, who is the light of our life. During this difficult time, I ask for respect for our privacy.”
Asking for privacy is the standard line in press releases these days. And with a story this salacious, no one expected it. I was however, surprised at the snark thrown Abedin’s way after she announced her departure. Across news sites, headlines announced the Abedin-Weiner split, kept saying Abedin “finally” left.
From Fox News: “Roasted Weiner: Huma Finally Leaves Horn-Dog Hubby.”
From Vanity Fair: “Huma Abedin Is Finally Separating From Anthony Weiner“
You get the drift.
The use of “finally” in this context is so judge-y. It implies that Abedin has come to her senses—apparently, sense that she hasn’t been using all along—after a long delay, and that she should have left Weiner ages ago. It implies that speaker would have done differently in Abedin’s shoes. It implies that Abedin has done something wrong by trying to maintain her marriage, despite her husband’s online sexcapades with strangers.
Think I’m reaching here? While most sites just imply that Abedin screwed up staying, in a NY Daily News article “Finally! What took Huma so long to kick Weiner to the curb?” writer Linda Stati flatly called Abedin a “doormat” and blamed her for Weiner’s escalating behavior.
“Why did this doormat of a wife wait until photos surfaced of him doing something so unspeakably perverse and harmful to their child — sexting photos of his erect penis in his shorts with their young son next to him — to separate from him?” Stati asked.
Um. How was Abedin supposed to know her husband was going to do all that?
Abedin isn’t the problem here. She was a married woman who wanted to keep her family intact. Or she loved her husband and wanted to keep him. Or she... wait! Do I really need to list excuses to justify why a married woman stayed with her husband?
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