ABIB Review: 'Think Like A Man Too'

The female cast of "Think Like A Man Too" for Essence magazine. It was something of a given that Think Like a Man was going to get a sequel. The film, inspired by the advice in Steve Harvey’s best-selling advice book and featuring an all-star black cast, grossed more than $33 million during its opening weekend and went on to clear nearly $96 million at the box office. It was a surprise hit, though I’m not sure why it was a surprise. Plenty of black movies have earned good returns, but critics seem amazed every single time it happens, as if black people and nonblack people alike don’t turn out for a solid film, especially one with predominantly black folks in it.

Think Like a Man Too opens today, and there’s hope that the movie—which is loosely a black version of The Hangover, replete with an accidental drug intake and an appearance by a popular boxing champion—will bring in similar numbers. The entire cast is back, and this time they’re gathered in Las Vegas for a fun-filled weekend that includes a competition over who can have the most fun between the bachelor and bachelorette parties, as well as the nuptials for Candace (Regina Hall) and Michael (Terrence Jenkins). The couple are still figuring out how to deal with his meddling mother, who this time extends her overbearing nature to the rest of the cast, too.

The storyline has all the trappings of what good romantic comedies are made of: attractive, likable actors with chemistry and a glitzy setting. It should work, but as a whole it doesn’t quite do the job.Think Like a Man Too, whose first film was adored by many, suffers from a classic sophomore jinx in that in its gallant effort to duplicate the success of the original, it just does too much. There are individual scenes that work well—there’s a cute moment at the bachelorette party when the girls party to “Poison,” and anything with even a glimpse of Michael Ealy is magic—but overall, they never gel into a cohesive storyline. If the movie were chopped into a series of Funny or Die clips, it would have been brilliant.

For a rom-com, one based on a dating-and-relationship advice book, it’s also extraordinarily light on relationships. Each of the returning couples has a new set of issues. Corporate-ladder climber Lauren (Taraji P. Henson) is mulling a job offer that will take her away from her boyfriend, Dominic (Michael Ealy). Mya (Meagan Good) is hung up on Zeek’s (Romany Malco) playboy past. And Kristen (Gabrielle Union), who is somehow still in the unlikeliest relationship ever with Jeremy (Jerry Ferrara), wants to have his baby. (Is Union typecast or what?) Jeremy, of course, isn’t ready. Each of these major conflicts is worthy of being explored in depth, but as quickly as they’re laid out, they are tidied up with little more than a single conversation.

Part of the shortcoming here is the sheer number of people in the film to be tended to—including three white cast mates who add little to the story and seem to be there for the movie’s crossover

appeal. The other part is the overwhelming focus of the film on Kevin Hart’s antics (as Cedric, the best man); the glitz of Vegas—the film is practically a tourism guide; and the occasionally funny, if predictable, shenanigans that ensue during the girls’ and guys’ night out.

There is an upside to the film, though. Many people (including me) have complained about the number of sad, single-black-woman stories that dominate the media, as if black women never, ever have relationships or get married. Think Like a Man Too plays up black commitment and presents it as wholly normal and doesn’t vilify its single characters as dysfunctional. The film might be disjointed, but you won’t leave the theater feeling depressed.

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Ask Demetria: Is Getting Revenge on An Ex Worth It?


How do you feel about getting revenge on the ex that hurt you? Nothing involving harm to the person or property—just to expose him for what he is. He portrays himself as this great guy, but I know things about him that would shock people, especially his new girlfriend. I’ve spent months going back and forth between thinking he deserves it and others should know, and thinking he’s not worth it, move on. —K.I.

You’re still hurt. I get it. But you have to let it go. He is living rent-free in your head. You’re spending months thinking about a man who is thinking about the woman he is with—not you. You think you have some sort of upper hand because you have information about him that you think could ruin his reputation. What you don’t realize is that you’ve already given him the upper hand by spending months of your life still dwelling on him.

He hurt you. I get it. Forgive him anyway. Not because he deserves it but because if you don’t let your anger go, you’re going to remain stuck in it even longer. And while he’s enjoying life with the next woman, you will not meet anyone of worth or substance to treat you the way you deserve because you’re holding on to so much animosity about your past. Frankly, your bitterness is going to block your blessings.

Several celebrity ex-wives have been in the news for spilling secrets and talking greasy about their ex-husbands and, allegedly, their affairs. There was infamous basketball player Dwyane Wade’s ex, who, among many things, publicly accused him of giving her an STD and then alleged that Wade, a multimillionaire, had left her homeless.

Meanwhile, Swizz Beatz’s ex was writing open letters to his alleged mistress on Instagram in 2009. And earlier this week, Kevin Hart’s ex Torrei Hart blasted him for allegedly cheating on her—with dates and all. To her credit, maybe she’s mad, or maybe this is all just a cheap promo for her new reality show.

You’re not a celebrity, so you’re not going to get press—or money—by spilling your ex’s tea. Here’s what will happen, though. Your friends and his friends will listen to your stories, and they will laugh and they will call others and retell your tales. It may get back to your ex, and he’ll be mad. He might even call and flip on you. Maybe his new lady will hear about it, too, and she’ll look at him sideways. You and your stories will be the center of attention for a little bit.

But after the initial shock, no one will think, “Ooh, what sweet revenge!” When they’ve sobered up from their gossiping high, they’ll wonder why, if what you say is true, you stayed with him. Then they’ll wonder why, all this time later, you’re running your mouth about the past. They’ll ask each other why you are still so hung up on a guy who, by your own account, didn’t even treat you right. (That’s also a question you should ask yourself.)


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